About Me

Who are you, really?
My name is Elisia and I’m from the small red dot on the map called Singapore. I was influenced by my friend, Nadine and got interested in building websites when I was 14. (I am 41 now.) I am proud to say that I taught myself simple html and css. My first website I built was through and through an amateur site complete with animated gifs, and different backgrounds and midi tunes for every page. I had no idea then that “simple is beautiful”.

I have been blogging since 2003? but I only have archived entries from 2004 onwards. I started blogging on a free blog site (can’t even remember what it’s called now but it has closed down) then moved on to another free blog site, Diaryland. I finally got fed up of not being able to control the look and feel of my blog, so I moved on to paid webhosting. My first paid website was hosted by my friend, Raynor. It lasted for a while, but being the control freak that I am, that did not satisfy me for too long. Besides, my friend wanted to give up his webhosting package. So I purchased my own domain and webhosting package, and that’s how this blog got set up.

There have been occasional dry spells where I completely stopped blogging (especially when I entered college and began working full time). By then, I had outgrown the diary-style writing and logging my day-to-day activities. During those times, I wanted to write about my thoughts on issues and share my happy/sad moments, but was either busy with school or work. When I finally had time to blog, I had already lost the motivation to do so. I returned to regular blogging when I quit my job. Then, the kids came and my time was no longer my time.

I would go on cycles of blogging and then long hiatus. I have been building my Instagram (IG) account and trying to be a nano influencer since 2019. (Can I even call myself one?) Over time, I would come to love and hate what I do on IG. I sometimes feel my IG is becoming too much of an ad board and I’m losing myself — something which I do not want to. I live by the words “This is who I am”. I want to stay true to myself and enjoy doing what I like. Thus, I am trying to move away from being an influencer and more of a content creator.

I still love writing and feel the need to go back to what I truly love. Writing helps me to sort out my thoughts, gain clarity, and hopefully create conversations with others. Not sure how many follow my blog but I have come to accept that I write for myself even if no one reads it.

What do you do besides blogging?
I’m a full-time stay-at-home mama to two girls, aged 8 and 11. That means I wear many hats. I’m the cook, janitor, laundry lady, tuition teacher, etc.

On the side, I’m very active on IG (realisticsoul). Busy building my profile as a content creator. I also have word/thought diarrhoea on threads (realisticsoul). It is ground for my random musings, and bits and pieces of thoughts that run wild in my head.

I am into Japanese culture:

  • I have been to Japan quite a few times.
  • I studied Japanese until the intermediate level, but really I’m crap at it and can hardly speak it.
  • I listen to Japanese pop music and am very much into NewS, AAA, Olivia Lufkin, etc.
  • I enjoy going to karaoke and singing Japanese songs.
  • I am also into Lolita fashion. It is an expensive hobby and I’ve quite a collection of dresses, but in actual fact, I’ve only worn these dresses a few times.
  • I like Japanese food especially ramen, curry rice and omu rice, but I do not eat raw food. So, no sashimi and selected sushi for me.
  • I used to watch Japanese dramas a lot but have since stopped. I do watch the occasional Japanese movie and am into anime and manga. In particular, I like shoujo anime/manga.

Besides all things Japanese, I like watching crime dramas especially Criminal Minds. I am also currently catching up on lots of Chinese dramas. Hmmm…I also ponder a lot over some “questions of life”…things that perhaps some people may find inconsequential. I do blog about these from time to time (secretly hoping that they become conversation topics with people).

Oh and whaddya know? I’ve finally ventured into KPop. I am first a CARAT, then an ELF. Yes, that pretty much means I’m into SEVENTEEN and SUPER JUNIOR. Because of KPop, I would love to learn Korean. I mean, I need to know what the lyrics mean when I listen to songs right? I can’t fully feel the songs if I can’t even understand the words. How irritating is that?

If you like any of the above or just want to be friends, drop me a note, comment, whatever… Being a social media enthusiast, I’m on almost every popular social media channel. (I have accounts everywhere but I may not actively use them.) Just remember to identify yourself before adding me as a friend.

[Updated on 5 July 2026]