“We are responsible for our own effectiveness, for our own happiness, and ultimately, I would say, for most of our circumstances.”
— Stephen R. Covey “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”

In the midst of thinking of how to help Sis overcome her problems, I re-read the first chapter of “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” about proactivity. When I came to the part about responsibility and choosing, I started to think about myself and my own relationship.

I think I’ve found the answer to what people have been asking my all this while. I know some people have this question in their mind (especially Sis) about my relationship with the boyfriend. “He is your first boyfriend, how are you so sure he is the one?” “There are so many fish out in the sea, you haven’t had a variety of experiences with different people.” “Remember the time he hurt you and you cried so bad, are you sure you want to be with him?”

While we have had our share of quarrels and there’s still a lot more challenges ahead before we commit ourselves to a life together (aka marriage), I don’t see how not we can be together. I used to retort back by saying that I look at my relationship with him as long-term, but I still get the “how are you so sure that he’s the one” thrown back in my face. Now, I tell you why. I CHOOSE to make my relationship work and turn out the way I want it to be. Not saying that I am selfish and make it out to be the fairytale ending I want it to be, but that I know what I want as an outcome (a life together) therefore I work towards it. And that’s not to say that it will be a smooth road ahead, but we will work to overcome the obstacles and face the challenges together as they come along.